Okay ,so this semester I am taking a class about family units
in a diverse society. I just finished the portion on relationships, mainly
marriages. I think growing up everyone has their own imaginary idea of what
marriage is like, and what theirs will be like.
I think my idea of what
marriage is came from a lot of different sources to create this collage of an ideal
partnership that will be wonderful and perfect. I took parts of my parent’s
relationship, their friend’s relationship and what the media and Disney told me
marriage was like and pieced it together into my own dream of how it will be.
Obviously though, now that I am older, I realize that my dream idea of marriage
isn’t the reality of it. Not to say that marriages can’t be wonderful, I’m sure
they can! All I’m saying is, I never saw any of the princesses divorce Prince Charming,
and according to reality nearly half of them would be. Anyways the course has
helped me I would say to get a better understanding of what makes a marriage so
hard, why half of them doomed to fail. 
After reading through all the course
content I literally felt like I had sat through multiple marriage counselling sessions
haha. I think after seeing everything that can go wrong in a marriage I gained
a whole new appreciation for life-long marriages. For me it is inspiring to see
that it can be done, but not only that, that it can also be done happily. I
love seeing couples that have been together for the majority of their lives and
still love and respect each other; it’s quite a feat I would say to share your
life with a person. I just think it it’s cool to not only see a couple that has
stayed together so long because they are married, but because they genuinely like
the other person and enjoy sharing their life experiences with one another. 
My fathers side of the familly is pretty unique. No one has ever gotten divorced. I think the main reason people get divorced is because they are lazy and selfish. They don't try their hardest to make it work and only think of themselves during these troubled times.
ReplyDeleteI guess not everyone gets a divorce free familly like my fathers side of the familly, my mothers side is the exact oppisite.
This post reminded me of something Baz Luhrmann sang in his song Everbodys free to wear sunscreen:
"Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary..."
It's a good song you should check it out.
Hahah, I love the lyrics!
DeleteYa, there's barely any divorce in my family either, but I know it's a hugely growing thing. I feel like people should really think and take their time before getting married, and then try herd to make it work. It's like you said; so many people have false ideas as to what marriage is. They don't realize that it is a TON of work (or so I've heard...) I love seeing and hearing about marriages that have stayed true, especially with people who are in the public's eye, because so often those marriages don't last.
ReplyDeleteYeah I have heard that too! And yes, I love when media couples stay together1
DeleteYeah I definitely agree with you that it is unfortunate that so many marriages fail nowadays but it's rather idealic to believe that all marriages can stand the test of time. Like you said in your post, everyone has a different idea of what marriage means and this can often lead to problems. I think people should really consider the implications beforehand. However sometimes even when you think you've thought everything out unexpected things can occur which changes the situation completely.In these cases I think its realistic to consider divorce, I mean what's really important is doing what best for yourself while retaining respect for your spouse.
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